How can I be supportive of my husband going back to school, while I am experienceing high anxiety about it.?
My husband is the breadwinner, working during the day and I part time at night. We have two young kids and money is tight. He recently discovered that he want’s to go to school for acupuncture, a 4 year program. He would work during the day and go to school at night. I am supportive of his decision, but am concerned about how this will affect our life. I will have to find a different job, hardly see him, and once he begins practicing I worry if we can make it. While visiting schools we had a fight already, and I don’t want this to tear us apart. Anyone go through this? I need help on being supportive while remaining realistic.
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the reality of it is that you will both be working and or going to school; you will be taking care of your children and the household…..BUT if it is his dream why not support him…..it’s only four years….and I would imagine that once he gets through it and starts his practice you won’t have to work and he’ll be working 8 hour days………Don’t let it tear you apart…..
I’m just going to be completely honest here…it sounds as if your a little scared to get your hands dirty and switch roles in your family…I’m saying this because the first thing you mentioned is “my husband is the breadwinner”, which says to me you like things this way and don’t want them to change, which is understandable but try and be a little more understanding to the situation. You stated that you already have two kids and I understand how that can make you worry about their financial needs since your husband will be in school, but your husband feels like he can make a change in his career before its too late, be proud of his courage to change your lives for the better, I know its a risk, but for now looks like you will be asking what’s for dinner??!!! It’s just apart of the sacrifices of being married, both want their dreams fulfilled…you just have to take turns. But we all have tough decisions to make…just come and look at my 360 blog and you’ll see that I too am in your shoes.
P.S. You guys should sit and plan this out and always talk about changes with each semester.
If this is important to him and you prevent him from doing it, he will totally resent you for it later
The days of the man being the breadwinner have well and truly past.. you are out there working too, so don’t think like that – you are also contributing.
I would expect a feeling of anxiety, this is a big change, but think about the outcome at the end, you husband will have the skills and ability to earn more money, and money won’t be so tight.. Would finding a different job really be that bad.. and if he is working full time during the day and you part time at night now, it sounds like you don’t get to see alot of each other already..From what you have described, it looks like your husband is wanting to better himself to better support you..
My husband decided after 15 years in an office profession that he wanted to be a truck driver..at first I was horrified.. why give up a 8hr a day job to become a driver who can work anywhere from 8-16hrs a day and travel all over the place..
Well it turns out it was the best thing he did, not only is the job similar hours to what he used to work, the money is great and he is happy.. I didn’t realise how stressed he was in his old job until he started driving trucks..